Question by Rose: Men: Have you ever struggled with depression and/or substance abuse?
Hi guys,

My ex is in his late 20s, an alcoholic, and severely depressed. Not only did he dump me a few months back, but he cut off contact with his friends, alienated his co-workers, and spends most of his time away from work playing video games while drinking. I’ve been clinically depressed before, too, so I know how it feels to go through it. I got the help I needed and through it was a long road, I’ve recovered (I was never a substance abuser, though).

However, women and men deal with problems differently. Since he dumped me, he shut me out of his life completely, and I have no idea how he’s feeling, if he’s dealing with his issues, etc. It’s starting to eat me up inside, because I love him so much but he severed our connection. As a man, how did depression affect you? How did you deal with it? What was it that finally made you realize that you were in fact depressed and needed to get help and make changes in your life?

Thanks!
I don’t want to get back together with him. I just want to know what some other men may have gone through.
And another thing — I care about him. If I were just a friend and we didn’t have a romantic history, I’d be just as worried. The fact that he’s my ex and he dumped me, AS WELL AS “dumped” his friends, family, and coworkers, serves as context — he can’t hold down a relationship, whether romantic or otherwise. Maybe I should have been more clear: I’m not trying to find fodder to convince him to take me back; I’m simply trying to understand how this illness affects him and men in general.
Thank you, Baloo, for understanding the point of my question. I appreciate your answer.

Best answer:

Answer by JoeRofls I
He broke up with you. It’s been months. He doesn’t want anything to do with you. Whether he’s depressed or not, he does not want to get back together with you. Get over it.

Answer by wtftimbo
If you’re not dating anymore then it’s not really any of your business.

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