Question by : I need help to tell my mom that counseling is not for me?
I’m fourteen. My mom and I do NOT get along, seeing as we both have incredibly short fuses. If I ask a simple question such as, “Hey, mom, can we go to McDonald’s?”, she starts to swear and slam doors and occasionally breaks things. We’ve worked with about seven counselors in the past 5 years. I am completely overwhelmed, and cannot keep doing this. My mom has done everything in her power to not work with me and let other people do the parenting for her. Now, she has hired a new batch of counselors for me as a “last ditch effort before she sends me into a residential treatment facility”. These new counselors are not working with me at all. What they have done is they have come into my house (there are at least six of them in their “team”), taken away my Xbox 360, laptop, family computer, school computer, and bicycles, then forced me to do a schedule. They told me it was a “normal fourteen year old’s schedule”. Last time I checked, none of my friends had to come home to three or four people in their house after a stressful day at school, then have to play with paper airplanes with their counselors who act like five year olds (one of them has a f***ing hat that looks like a whale with water blowing out of its blowhole, for Christ’s sakes!) and then say that if they don’t do that, then they’re going to take more of my things away. Now, correct me if I’m wrong, but if I were 18, wouldn’t that be considered something called “blackmail”? I’ve tried sitting down and talking to my mom (my dad lives elsewhere for work) and saying that these people are not working for me, they’re NOT addressing the actual issues between mom and I, and they act like I should be babysitting them. One of them has actually chipped my tooth when they were trying to “be funny” and grabbed my metal bowl of cake batter out of my hands and hit me in the mouth with it. My mom does not listen to me and says that she can’t handle me and that I’m out of control and then it all goes back to the old saying, “Because I’m the parent, and you are the child.” As if I hadn’t heard it half a billion times. I need a way to convince her that I can be responsible and that I don’t need counseling. Their “program” takes at minimum five months to complete. I cannot go five months longer without being able to leave the house, watch T.V., play video games, go to a friend’s house, or have ten minutes to myself a day. They stay in my house from around 8:30 AM to wake me up and take me to school because my mother can’t drive me except on Wednesdays for some reason, then return before I get home from school so that they can greet me at the doorstep, then prompt me to do the first thing they have scheduled for today. At this point, I am using my school laptop which I had to smuggle out of the school like it was cocaine or something and bring it into my house and hide it in my room so my parents don’t find out. I can’t keep living in a secluded room and only going to my friend’s houses if it’s on the schedule and planned about two weeks ahead of time. This weekend, my mom is going out of state and I’m being left at my house with my grandmother who is going to say that “if she lets me do anything that my mother wouldn’t do, that she’s going to get into trouble with my mother again, and she doesn’t want to do that”. I emotionally and physically go through another five years this way. I have gained over five pounds now that I don’t have my bicycles, and am detached from my friends now that I can’t go on FaceBook or spend time with them. My mom doesn’t seem to care, and she says she’s sacrificing so much when she has to go into a cold room to sew or use the computer. Well, to be perfectly honest, I would rather have my Xbox in a cold room than never being able to use it since it’s out of the state. They stay until 8:30, 9:30, 10:30, or whenever they feel like leaving. I can’t do this. I am currently out of school, not because I’m suspended or anything, but that I emotionally cannot go to school which is very stressful since I’m under constant watch because I was in Special Education and then they realized that wasn’t working so they moved me to normal classes, then coming home to these people who make me closer and closer to the edge each and every day. Please help me…

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Answer by Minister ((Christian.))
Tell your favorite teacher. They are trained to know what to do. I can call cps for you- any state.

1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many parents are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you better or help- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also.

There are 3 types of abusive people/parents. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great on being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. People tear you down to build themselves up. Youre being abused – Its their problem, and you cant change them.

Abuse causes pain mistaken as Mental Problems. BP OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud and all disorders are a hoax. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. You dont have what shrinks say you have.

Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them.

Contact- Child Protective Services online or tell your teacher. Your parents need to forgive the past.

Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under “emotional abuse” and “dealing with bullies”.

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